| Coping with a bittersweet season | ||||
For many of us, sorrow and joy can be braided together during the stretch between Thanksgiving and New Year's Day. For those who have lost friends and loved ones, the pain of remembrance will mix with holiday pleasures. Along with emotional pressure, too much stress can have bodily consequences. It can interfere with the immune system, for example, possibly making it more likely for you to come down with a cold if you're exposed to one, slow the healing of a wound, and even affect how well the flu vaccine protects you. It can also raise the risk of cardiovascular disease. But there are ways to lighten any holiday's emotional weight. Here are some recommendations for how to ease stress throughout the year and specifically during holidays. Cut everyone some slack. People are more irritable when they're under stress, and they may misdirect the irritation at others. This is a time to be more tolerant and understanding of friends, family, coworkers, and yourself. Maintain perspective. When something minor goes wrong, talk yourself out of getting upset. Take a few deep breaths. Visualize a stop sign to help small negative events stay molehills. Choose a beautiful image to replace a stressful memory or worry. Spend time with friends and loved ones. A strong social-support system can help protect you against the effects of stress on the body. If you're often alone, make an effort to mingle with others and find social support in volunteer, religious, or civic activities. Talk about those who aren't there. A special toast, remembrances, and displays of photos can stimulate affectionate talk about people you miss. Some families set a place at the table for missing relatives. Expect less of yourself. If you don't have the heart to do some of your usual activities, like sending holiday cards, buying lots of gifts, or stringing
up lights, skip the less important rituals or see if someone else can do them for you or with you. Focus on activities that
lighten your heart and bring out the deeper meaning of the holidays. |
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